Comments on: Refueling with Love http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/ Field Notes from the Backyard (R)evolution Fri, 13 Jan 2012 01:42:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Mel http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-446 Mel Mon, 29 Mar 2010 15:58:44 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-446 I'm with Debi- whining is one of the most annoying things a kid can do. Aaaahhhhhhhh! I'd like to just tell my boys to "cowboy up", but it's true that it is a sign that they need/want something--usually attention. People say to not reward kids by giving them attention when they whine, but for a little kid, what else is there but attention from mom and dad? I think you are right to fill them up with attention, love and time together BEFORE the whining. Then they don't need to whine (most of the time). And work on skills for expressing what they want/need, so they know alternatives to whining. .-= Mel´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.yourwildchild.com/blog1.php/2010/03/29/make-a-bug-house-part-ii" rel="nofollow">Make a bug house: part II</a> =-. I’m with Debi- whining is one of the most annoying things a kid can do. Aaaahhhhhhhh! I’d like to just tell my boys to “cowboy up”, but it’s true that it is a sign that they need/want something–usually attention.

People say to not reward kids by giving them attention when they whine, but for a little kid, what else is there but attention from mom and dad? I think you are right to fill them up with attention, love and time together BEFORE the whining. Then they don’t need to whine (most of the time). And work on skills for expressing what they want/need, so they know alternatives to whining.
.-= Mel´s last blog ..Make a bug house: part II =-.

]]> By: se7en http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-427 se7en Wed, 24 Mar 2010 21:13:34 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-427 That's just brilliant - I love the whole positive discipline thing!!! Works for us!!! That’s just brilliant – I love the whole positive discipline thing!!! Works for us!!!

]]> By: Shannon http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-426 Shannon Wed, 24 Mar 2010 11:49:33 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-426 susan, yes, I whine too... thanks for the wonderful comment.. it was nice to see my "thinking" work! susan, yes, I whine too… thanks for the wonderful comment.. it was nice to see my “thinking” work!

]]> By: Lara Jane | Ultimate Lifestyle Project http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Lara Jane | Ultimate Lifestyle Project Tue, 23 Mar 2010 23:45:47 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-421 What a beautiful story about you and your son, thank you for sharing. I don't have any children myself yet, but can't wait to start a family. Disciplining and dealing with misbehaving children is always on the back of my mind - more so, HOW to deal with it. You have provided a beautiful example of perfect parenting tips. Many thanks! Lara http://ultimatelifestyleproject.com/fostering-creativity .-= Lara Jane | Ultimate Lifestyle Project´s last blog ..<a href="http://ultimatelifestyleproject.com/fostering-creativity/" rel="nofollow">Fostering Creativity</a> =-. What a beautiful story about you and your son, thank you for sharing.

I don’t have any children myself yet, but can’t wait to start a family. Disciplining and dealing with misbehaving children is always on the back of my mind – more so, HOW to deal with it. You have provided a beautiful example of perfect parenting tips.

Many thanks!
Lara
http://ultimatelifestyleproject.com/fostering-creativity
.-= Lara Jane | Ultimate Lifestyle Project´s last blog ..Fostering Creativity =-.

]]> By: Susan http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-420 Susan Tue, 23 Mar 2010 22:59:37 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-420 Isn't it wonderful when a not-so-great-day is transformed! Smart Mom for thinking on your feet. I abhor whining- though I'm capable of it myself. .-= Susan´s last blog ..<a href="http://dailycopingskills.blogspot.com/2010/03/juice-glasses.html" rel="nofollow">Juice Glasses</a> =-. Isn’t it wonderful when a not-so-great-day is transformed! Smart Mom for thinking on your feet.
I abhor whining- though I’m capable of it myself.
.-= Susan´s last blog ..Juice Glasses =-.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-417 Shannon Tue, 23 Mar 2010 17:12:46 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-417 We'll see how this phase goes for me... outside time with love may it please get me through! We’ll see how this phase goes for me… outside time with love may it please get me through!

]]> By: Debi http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-416 Debi Tue, 23 Mar 2010 16:48:25 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-416 Whining is probably my most abhored childhood behavior, I think because it so quickly grates on my nerves. Now that I've got two kids, I've learned that whining is usually a sign of something else (hunger, exhaustion or another need like more mommy or daddy time). The trick is to step back and not get caught up in the moment. If you can do that, you'll often be surprised with your child's response. Whining is probably my most abhored childhood behavior, I think because it so quickly grates on my nerves. Now that I’ve got two kids, I’ve learned that whining is usually a sign of something else (hunger, exhaustion or another need like more mommy or daddy time). The trick is to step back and not get caught up in the moment. If you can do that, you’ll often be surprised with your child’s response.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-415 Shannon Tue, 23 Mar 2010 15:27:38 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-415 yes... I love the Positive Discipline book as a reference for "naughty" behavior (mine or my son's). But I have to say I also think that going outside is the best solution for everything! yes… I love the Positive Discipline book as a reference for “naughty” behavior (mine or my son’s). But I have to say I also think that going outside is the best solution for everything!

]]> By: Megan@Homeschooling on the Run http://www.backyardmama.com/2010/03/23/refueling-with-love/comment-page-1/#comment-414 Megan@Homeschooling on the Run Tue, 23 Mar 2010 13:57:50 +0000 http://www.backyardmama.com/?p=707#comment-414 Thanks for sharing this! I like your solution a lot. It's good to be reminded that sometimes, the behavior is saying that the parenting needs a tweak or two. I don't always remember to step outside of the situation and take an objective peek at what's going on. Whining really gets on my nerves, too! .-= Megan@Homeschooling on the Run´s last blog ..<a href="http://ettinsmuir.wordpress.com/2010/03/23/living-values-by-tending-the-vineyard-30-minute-blog-challenge/" rel="nofollow">Living Values By Tending the Vineyard (30 Minute Blog Challenge)</a> =-. Thanks for sharing this! I like your solution a lot. It’s good to be reminded that sometimes, the behavior is saying that the parenting needs a tweak or two. I don’t always remember to step outside of the situation and take an objective peek at what’s going on. Whining really gets on my nerves, too!
.-= Megan@Homeschooling on the Run´s last blog ..Living Values By Tending the Vineyard (30 Minute Blog Challenge) =-.

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